Needing attention and affection

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I have and am having therapy for issues from the past. For example. My partner came home for lunch and i cooked us steak, chips and afterwards we sat on the sofa. I never want him to leave i work from home , i hate when he says goodbye etc. He just always asks when i would like it to be polite.

The thing is, i never instigate in fear of rejection. We are both busy and tired a lot, but he says when we have sex he loves it. I have a lot of problems, anxiety, i have reactive hypoglycaemia, polycystic ovaries which causes bad pms and mood swings.. I just crave more than he can give. We can go hours and not talk. When we first got together, he was the one arranging all the dates, wanting to see me. He put so much more into me than i did to him and probably for the first months.

As i had been hurt in the past. We are both content, but i feel like i want to be whisked off my feet. I know he does. I guess deep down i fear he will leave me. You wrote that you had therapy in the past. If so, that original fear, of you as , that needs to be examined, understood and soothed in the context of psychotherapy with a competent, empathetic therapist in addition to your relationship.

It would also be a good idea, I believe, if after some therapy, you introduce your boyfriend to the therapist so to work on the relationship, on a workable balance between together and alone. I have had a lot of issues to work through and 2 years on, a lot of past issues still are not resolved. Sometimes its hard to identify the problems or feelings i had as , to work through them.

Self sufficiency is like a muscle. He might be pleasantly surprised. Everyone needs a vacation of sorts. Even from things they love, you know? Actually, i may give that a go. One day of no-neediness tomorrow. Will be hard. I feel like i am playing a game though! To feel authentic, to not feel like you are playing a game, it takes looking into the core problem and re-integrating feelings you separated from but these feelings are still there under the surface. It must have upset you then and without your awareness, it still does- that is why you are craving it so much.

You gotta trust him and the relationship more. You dont have to have sex all the time, you dont need to stick to each other like glue to prove the love is there — he cares about you a lot and even you know that. His commitment is right in front of you but you need to see it, acknowledge and stop overthinking after a point.

I dont have any great advice except to say that get more involved with your life outside of the work that you do at home — some distance in a relationship is healthy, isnt it? Take a class, a gym, volunteer, make new friends. Have your own life too — inner or outer whichever you like.

I am not gonna ask you to play games — just gonna say find balance in your own way. Hi, I hope you read this post Claref. When I read this post I felt like you are talking about me. I feel your every word.

I realized this craving is due to the low production of hormone Oxytocin. Getting massage will help. But eating some high energy foods, like sesame seeds works great. Getting enough sunlight in the morning and evening is the other best solution. Please concentrate on correcting this hormone. When you correct all hormones in your body, you will feel balanced in body, mind and soul. Life will flow beautifully.

You can try Yoga. Also, when all your hormones are balanced, you need not to put efforts like staying away for one day, one week etc. You know I suffer from every emotional and physical ailment you mentioned. I discovered this secret of correcting hormones corrects all your body ailments, right emotions and thought gets produced from heart and mind energy centers.

Sesame and Chickpeas have the ability to correct PCOD, but they also produce high heat so drink lots of water, if required barley water. Then as usual carbs, fat, spices and protein in meals. Get enough sunlight. This will correct everything. Wish you the best. Omg claref you sound exactly like me. I hope that you have found a fulfilling solution, and that you are feeling more secure and happy in love now in I am the same way and idk how to deal with it sometimes.

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August 23, at am Hello everyone. I am very affectionate person and sometimes invade his personal space. I need help to not be so smothering to him, but advice on how i can get it back? Dear cjf You wrote that you had therapy in the past. Hi Anita I am having therapy still. Inky Participant. Then work up to one week of non-neediness. Best, Inky. Dear cjf To feel authentic, to not feel like you are playing a game, it takes looking into the core problem and re-integrating feelings you separated from but these feelings are still there under the surface.

August 23, at pm Nina Sakura Participant. Take care, Nina. April 15, at am Shri Participant. June 26, at am Holiday Participant. Disclaimer This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice.

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