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Return to Book . Double standards are nothing new. Women deal with them every day. Take the common truism that women who sleep around are sluts while men are studs. Why is it that men grow distinguished and sexily gray as they age while women just get saggy and haggard? Have you ever wondered how a young woman is supposed to be both virginal and provocatively enticing at the same time?
Isn Double standards are nothing new. Get A Copy. Paperback , s. More Details Original Title. Other Editions 7. Friend Reviews. To see what your friends thought of this book, please up. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Average rating 3. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Mar 05, Crystal Starr Light rated it liked it Shelves: feminism , i-should-know-better , it-s-not-you-it-s-me. I think I finally get it. You know how you go to a party and maybe your friend came in with this loud, obnoxious person? And in order to spend time with your friend and being an introvert, you hate parties anyway you must spend time with this obnoxious person?
And you realize that everything about you and your friend's companion is I think I finally get it. And you realize that everything about you and your friend's companion is opposite and there is NO WAY unless hell freezes over you will be friends? So you stand around, listening politely while the other person shoots off at the mouth, saying things you agree with, but you find yourself almost immediately inwardly opposing? Well, that's how Valenti and I are. She's got some great ideas, but the way she writes totally grates on me.
Little to no research or references, a too-casual approach, tons of f-bombs and lots of goofy, supposedly funny comments to more serious topics. Some people are going to adore this frank discussion; they are going to learn oodles from it. They are going to love how relaxed and carefree Jessica Valenti is.
But when I open a non-fiction book, I want professionalism. I want to see a big, fat Bibliography with lots of references - weblinks AND books, magazines, periodicals. I want a certain tone in the writing. I don't mind some anger, but I want some attempt at objectivity. This time around, Valenti tackles the double standard.
How guys can be ugly, but women have to be gorgeous. How men want careers, and women want marriage and kids. How guys can have frequent sex, but women are called prostitutes. And Valenti attempts to provide solutions to each one. If you have been a woman not secluded in the Andes mountains, you are well aware of most of these double standards already. Or, I supposed, the "humor" part. But here's where I start having problems. Not to mention, due to the size of the book, a mere 4 s tops is given to each double standard and that is with a whole typically dedicated to a "solution".
Honestly, I would rather have Valenti condensed these hypocrisies down into as few as possible 10? Otherwise, large portions of the text remain unreferenced. You have to take Valenti's word when she says things like there is a "boy crisis" in colleges. And for a non-fiction book, I shouldn't have to take someone's word; I should be directed to a source that has research backing up the claim. Otherwise, it's no different than me making a Feminism Wiki and linking it to my "Chicken and Men Conspiracy" blog. Yeah, that certainly sounds credible!
Also, the other part that kinda perturbed me was how frequently Valenti would reference her own work in which the excerpts were of better professional quality than the book! Is there no one else that can provide quotes and references for your work, that you have to resort to using your own or your blog? Not as in "don't do them", as in "not helpful". Most are "Speak out! The worst though was for 44, where at the end of one section, Valenti goes, "I really just wanted to bring up The ever popular "speak up"? Support rape groups? I wish: "I don't know, dude. End ! No more! I spent more time thinking of solutions to this problem than she did - a rape crisis center, donate money to rape advocacy groups, support elected officials who will change laws, etc.
To me, this smarts more of having too many hypocrisies and not enough material to work with. For instance, the "He's 'Lucky', She's Lolita" is about how teenaged boys having sex with older women is OK, but teenaged girls having sex with older men is squicky. It confuses me mostly because - aren't older women in that case "cougars"? And wouldn't teenaged boys "look bad" for sleeping with "prowling women"?
A few of these that I had questioned such as being approached when dining alone , fellow friends corroborated - too bad Valenti didn't provide more examples, other than her own experience for this. How many hot, too-young female doctors do we see on TV? These women are in their mid-twenties; there is no way they would have finished college, residency, etc.Stud needs a woman
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He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know